Have you ever wondered if you’re an SX/SO? Would you like to get more insight on what this means? Here’s an article that can help you.
So many people are aware of their personality types and enneagram types but it’s a whole lot deeper than that. Knowing your instinctual enneagram type also helps you understand yourself as a person. The SX/SO being one of these subtypes.
What Is The SX/SO Subtype?
Instinctual stacking is one way to understand each subtypes in the enneagram. Each type is furthermore categorized into subtypes. There are generally 3 instinctual variants and they are:
• Sexual (SX) subtype
• The Self Preservation (SP) subtype
• Social (SO) subtype
Each of these variants is further classified into 6 subtypes and they are based on both dominant and secondary. The first variation being the dominant while the later serves as the secondary. With the SX/SO division, the SX serves S the dominant instinctual variation while the SP serves as the blind spot.
Here are the six variants:
• SX/SO
•SO/SP
•SX/SP
•SO/SX
•SP/SX
According to our variant of today, SX/SO, it shows that people with this instinctual variant would more likely focus on their sexual subtype as a dominant while their social subtype would be neglected.
The social and self preservation variants tend to be more removed from their emotion but as the dominant trait here, people with this instinctual variation are more likely to be intense, emotionally sensitive and romantic. They can be very reserved, even though they need a great deal of intimacy.
Signs You Are An SX/SO Instinctual Subtype
Here are important signs to indicate this might be you:
1. They Are Passionate
People with their sexual (SX) being dominant tend to be very passionate lovers. They look out for physical intimacy and compatibility. Sexual rejection can hurt them so much more than social rejection.
They tend to have a strong desire in expressing themselves and want their partners to understand them in every way possible. With the dominant SX, physical intimacy goes a long way for them.
Some tend to find connection with others to avoid feeling empty on the inside. They do not mind connecting to only one person in a group and that works for them.
Read: SO/SX Instinctual Enneagram Subtype
2. They Are Quite Intense
Due to the fact they need to form deep connections with people, this makes them quite intense people who go hard for people they love. This is evident in only a few people as this type tends to feel more intense with certain people’s company than with others.
The SX/SP prefers having one-on-one connections with people. Their social type helps them adapt to individual situations and make the most of it.
3. They Look Out For Small Groups
With the SO being a secondary function, the SX/SO would look out for groups but instead of large groups, they would prefer smaller groups as this helps them connect more with people than a large group that leaves them lost.
Unlike a person with an SO dominant, their identity isn’t completely wrapped around their group’s identity. They know when to single themselves out and when to work together.
Read: SO/SP Instinctual Enneagram Subtype
4. They Are Reserved
It is no surprise that this variation is reserved. They need one-on-one connection. Only a few people tend to know them way beyond the surface and they like to keep it like that.
Although they don’t mind occasional group setting every now and then, this doesn’t mean they can’t be shy, introverted and reserved. They just prefer being around people they know and are comfortable with.
5. It Doesn’t Always Have To Be Physical
Although sexual dominants are thought to be only physically connected to people, it’s a lot more than that. They crave a wide random connection to things that complete them on the inside. They focus mostly on things that give them energy and satisfaction.
It can be hard for them when they encounter lack of mental or emotional stimulation. Their social secondary means they like to find their place in the world and find meaning in things.
6. They Care A Little About What People Think
Due to their social secondary trait, they tend to feel social shame and can care a little about what people think about them. Mostly people who they care about. It can sting and hurt them deeply when they get rejected by these people.
Social types are interested in things going on around them and want to be a part of it. But it isn’t pronounced as a secondary trait.
These are 6 patterns of the Sexual dominant and social secondary variation. Which do you relate to?
