Are you the Self-Preservation two? Then this article explains the characteristics of one and all you need to know.
The Self-Preservation Two is known for their childlike nature and a need to be protected due to their cute nature. This is one way they get things they need and even better, they aren’t aware of this. The SP2 possesses the need to be cared for and loved because they assume they deserve that and much more.
From the description above, it is no surprise they come off as childlike and loveable. Unlike the SP1, they are more emotionally expressive and carry a youthful aura regardless of their age. Unlike their counterparts with the sexual instinct, they are more playful. The Sexual Two would be considered more adult-like than the Self-Preservation Two.
Who Is The Self-Preservation Two?
The Self-Preservation Enneagram 2 will constantly think they are the most important in the room and would seek out favors and demand their needs be met. Unlike others who need to first prove their importance, they do not feel they need to. Attention should come naturally to them and being the center of attraction shouldn’t require much work.
The SP2 needs to feel special and loves to be complimented. They strongly believe in their charms and in most cases are considered the teacher’s pet in school or the lovable individual at work. They are also the least prideful amongst other subtypes. The SP2s are sweet, caring, tender and approachable. They only shield themselves when they require self protection.
If you’ve ever wondered if you are a self-preservation Two, here are top characteristics that are hard to miss.
Undeniable Signs of A Self-Preservation Two
1. They Are Unconsciously Dependent
It is important to know that these Twos do not want to be dependent or do it intentionally. They shy away from the idea of being needy and in debt to people. However, due to their nature, they end up doing this unconsciously due to their childlike nature. The SP2 eventually engineers a situation where they are needed to be taken care of.
They also dream of being free and doing things on their own accord. But this type is less free and just as children need people to take care of their needs, it is not uncommon for people to always be there for them.
2. They Are Competent But Anxious
Because they can be unconsciously dependent doesn’t take away from the fact that they can be competent too. But the responsibility of caring for themselves can leave them anxious and scared. They can wonder if they are doing it right or not. If they can do it or not.
This makes them fall back into the habit of being cared for and viewed as innocent and ignorant. Their disorganized nature will be lesser in more matured SP2s and they will find ways to take care of themselves even when they slip into their childlike nature.
3. They Think They Are The Center of Attraction
From a young age, the E2 would think they are the center of attraction in any conversation. They expect people to pay more attention to them because they deserved it and because they were cute. They draw the attention and love from people around them and want to be loved simply because of who they are.
Since help comes to them easily, they unconsciously capitalize which can be detrimental as they avoid making independent decisions. This includes healthy adult relationships and commitments.
4. They Find It Difficult To Make Decisions
Decision making, commitments and adult relationships can be difficult for this subtype. They unconsciously try to avoid any form of independence except they absolutely have to. Even as adults who are bound to face life’s challenges, taking complete responsibility for their lives can be anxiety inducing.
They feel if they end up doing it, they are bound to doing it forever. The possibility of losing their charm and likability can be a huge deciding factor. They try to hold on to their cuteness for as long as they can.
How To Manage This As A Self-Preservation Two
As an SP2, managing your unconscious decisions that leave you longing for attention can be important. Having to make important decisions as an adult is non-negotiable. Some ways to do this are:
- Learning to not be afraid of independence and making mistakes. Observing from those around you and working regardless of fear and uncertainty.
- Learning to be resilient in more emotional circumstances.
- Not shrinking yourself and being a background character in your own life. This can cause serious damage to you as an adult.
- Supporting yourself would always be what matters in the end. Relying on others gives room for disappointment. This protects you from the pain of rejection and lets you appreciate the love from acceptance.
- Your value isn’t tied to what others think about you but what you think about yourself. It’s in what you do and how to handle situations.
Are you a Self-Preservation 2? What do you think I missed?
